Learning how to respond to a compliment is a good life skill to develop. Many of us have a hard time accepting compliments for a variety of reasons. Maybe we’re shy, and it makes us feel uncomfortable. Maybe we don’t want to come across as boastful. Whatever the reason, push it aside and learn to accept praise.
What is a compliment?
Stated compliments are expressions of esteem, respect, or admiration. They show appreciation or approval. They are given because of something positive someone has said or done. In other words, they are nice displays of praise, congratulations, or encouragement.
Sometimes, the inability to accept compliments can be a sign of low self-esteem. We may show others that we don’t think as highly about our actions or efforts as they do.
How do you naturally respond to compliments?
Do you blush? Do you turn away or pretend you didn’t hear the praise? Do you brush it off as “nothing”? Or do you contradict the compliment with examples of your character defects in unrelated areas?
These responses result from fear of appearing vain. Unfortunately, responses like these harm our self-confidence and keep an unhealthy self-image alive. On a good note, understanding our negative responses can help us develop healthy reactions. We can learn to receive compliments.
Brett and Kay McKay at ArtofManliness.com in “How to Accept a Compliment with Class” describe in detail techniques for improving how we take a compliment. They explain how we dismiss compliments, why we have trouble accepting recognition, and how we can acknowledge the praise of others.
How to Accept a Compliment With Class
You hand someone a gift and they eagerly tear off the wrapping paper and lift the lid on the box. But as they pick up and examine the present tucked inside, their smile quickly fades. “You know, this watch really isn’t right for me. Here, you can have it back.”…Even though we should all be offering more compliments, many of us struggle to do so. And yet graciously accepting compliments can be a challenge as well. Read more…
Compliments are gifts of encouragement. They are affirmations designed to encourage us as we walk on this pilgrimage called “life.” Embrace them. Accept them. What is the best response? Say, “Thank you” and smile.
Don’t forget to give these gifts of support to others – people you work with or strangers you meet. When you see something praiseworthy, tell the other person in straightforward and sincere words.
Editorial Update: We strive to keep our content accurate and up-to-date. As part of our ongoing efforts, this article has been moved from Personal Development to LIFESTYE & MUSINGS on 09/14/2023.
